tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4061406078687282740.post2298703650512115556..comments2023-05-20T05:37:52.648-04:00Comments on ACONography: i thee dreadClairehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05574418702880244921noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4061406078687282740.post-19634152209316711862012-04-16T17:14:36.159-04:002012-04-16T17:14:36.159-04:00Little One, We've been raised to worry. Sad to...Little One, We've been raised to worry. Sad to say, but I well remember in my late 20's joking, "If there wasn't something to worry about, I'd FIND something." Because that was my life and it was comfortable in a strange way and no doubt I'd feel more "me" as I had been raised to feel worry and anxiety because my environment trained me to be "on watch" for the most subtle cues.<br /><br />Feelings just are. It takes a good long while and re-exposure-if it's NECESSARY-to confront our fears. Look at how you handled the "ambush." Was it scary? Mon Dieu, YES! Our biochemistry and parasympathetic nervous systems have been primed to be on "alert." There are structural changes that take place when we're exposed to these kinds of environments that we experienced from our birth. We have no control over these responses. Yes, I know someone is going to respond regarding Yoga, Deep Breathing Exercises, Mediation etc. I'm not saying these and many other "practices" don't have value-of course they do.<br /><br />But when you're starting this journey the lack of confidence combined with fight/flight/Traumatic History aren't helpful, respectfully and IMO. Sometimes you just have to sit with the internal discomfort. The opportunity to confront your fears will present themselves. Having a plan gives you options besides "freeze."<br /><br />You responded beautifully to the ambush. IMO, this is the start of mastering your fears.<br />TWAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4061406078687282740.post-23950281433459889902012-04-14T11:25:00.639-04:002012-04-14T11:25:00.639-04:00Dont go if you worry...you are worth more than tha...Dont go if you worry...you are worth more than that; I have found that my loss is wider as I have had to remove myself from more family than I would have liked to escape their toxic grasp...I am on a new zero tolerance journey...zero tolerance for abuse...when I find myself scared or worry, I look at what the facts are and remove the element producing the fear...this is essential for my healing as I was powerless for most of my life and endured more than a lifetime of their stuff...so, I am finding that I have more grieving to do for losses on the periphery that have been essential to eliminate my risk of more of their abuse.<br /><br />Just my 2 cents...you will find your way...we all get to choose how to do this thing.<br /><br />PeaceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com